So I Married a Gay Man.....

I don't know about you, but my husband and I exchanged traditional vows at our wedding. "...to have and to hold, from this day forward, for better, for worse, for richer, for poorer, in sickness and in health, to love and to cherish, till death do us part..." I was young when we got married and had no idea what that really meant.  I couldn't really imagine what worse could look like.  I certainly would never have guessed that it would mean same-sex attraction.  Dealing with this season of "for worse" has included a lot of hard work .  Sometimes it seems like we aren't getting anywhere.  Most of the time it just feels like two steps forward and one step back.  My husband loves to keep the garage organized but it doesn't take long before it is a complete mess.  Then he goes out there to clean it all up again.  But you know what happens first?  When you start to clean up a mess it often looks worse than when you started.  You have to take everythin

One of my fears all along was that somehow our kids (teens and young adults) would accidentally find out about their dad's SSA, by overhearing a conversation or something, and feel betrayed.  So, we wanted to make sure that they heard our story directly from us in the way and timing that we felt was best.  My husband was a nervous wreck.  He was so afraid that one or more of them would reject him. We set aside some family time and after hanging out for a while we told them. And they were fine.  They love their dad.  They know he loves them.  They had a few good questions and a few "aha" moments, but mostly they thought it was no big deal.  We raised some amazing kids!  This has been super helpful in being more open and honest.  I no longer have to lie about or hide phone calls, retreats, and therapy appointments.  We have always been an open communication family, so it's been hard to be secretive.  I couldn't be happier or more relieved at how easy it was to s