So I Married a Gay Man.....

This month we are keeping a journal of thankfulness.  We are keeping it simple - just a small notebook in our bedroom with a pen nearby.  Every day we each write down something we are thankful for, without duplicating anything.  It's funny how on some days I can think of several things and other days I'm at a loss of what to write.  And that is truly ridiculous because I have SO MUCH to be thankful for.   What we focus on will  determine how we feel , how we think, and how we act.  What we focus on will also  shape our beliefs  - beliefs about the world, those around us, and even ourselves.  Clearly our focus is important and we should be aware of what are focusing on.  Right now we are choosing to focus on what we are thankful for and that is proving to be helpful in so many other areas. Maybe you are thinking, "But you don't understand just how difficult my life is right now!  I can't be thankful!"  I ge...

The roller-coaster has been all too real lately.  Emotional highs can be great, but the lows can be devastating.  The endless cycle of shame and fear have been killing us.  Getting off the roller-coaster is imperative and yet it's been exhausting work. We made 3 agreements towards ending the cycle.  They are written on our bathroom mirror as a daily reminder of our agreements.  So far, it has been a major step forward for us.  I am praying it will last! 1. Renewed commitment We made a solid mutual pact to work on our marriage.  When we first got married, we had a rule - we would never even say the word divorce.  Recently we have let words like divorce and separation enter our vocabulary.  That had to stop.  It wasn't helpful for either of us. “For I hate divorce!” says the Lord, the God of Israel. “To divorce your wife is to overwhelm her with cruelty,” says the Lord of Heaven’s Armies. “So guard your heart; do not be unfa...