So I Married a Gay Man.....

It's been 125 weeks (that's almost two and half years....) since my husband disclosed his same-sex attraction. We are beginning to thrive. We are starting to really live again. I hate that it has taken this long, but then I realize that it really hasn't been that long.  We are go-getters, hard-chargers, get-it-done kind of people. And well, this isn't something you can just get done. It's a slow, often painfully slow, process. And we aren't at the finish line yet. We still have a lot of work to do.  There is light at the end of the tunnel. And the tunnel doesn't seem so long and narrow and cramped anymore. So we will keep walking towards the light.

 It's been a while since I've posted, but I haven't stopped reading! I have long been a fan of the Hole in my Heart Podcast .  So, I was eager to read their new book and preordered it. Though it wasn't exactly what I expected it was a good read.  The main point of the book is that marriage is a metaphor of Christ's love for the church. And anyone, even someone that is not naturally attracted to their spouse, can participate it the metaphor. An Impossible Marriage: What Our Mixed-Orientation Marriage Has Taught Us About Love and the Gospel by Laurie and Matt Krieg is a story about a difficult point in their marriage and what they learned during that time. They alternate telling the story, revealing their unique individual thoughts, feelings, and experiences.   The part of the book that resonnated most with me was about not using sex as a barometer of oneness in our marriage. Laurie explains, "I wish I had understood then that the number of times we have sex is